Is clearer better?

i don’t know if when his mind is clearer if it’s a good thing or  not.  When he’s thinking fairly well - he WANTS TO GO HOME  -when I explain it to him, once again, he says but that’s MY HOUSE, it’s where my friends are, people I know.
I cautioned him about being angry when he’s there and shaking his fist at Mom, and he said ‘Then she ought to behave herself.”
I talked with one of Mom’s friends today about the situation, and she really hears and only sees Mom’s side.  I see both sides, but don’t, and will never understand the lack of compassion and caring that is missing from a ‘good Christian’.   Granted, she’s getting bad about memory things, and is considered deaf  -  but you don’t have to remember to be nice or loving - and you don’t have to be able to hear to be nice either.  My brothers see both sides as well..  and both sides of her. i love her, but she’s self centered, and hypocritical.

He told me he sees Mom out running around, on the back of a motorbike, he’s seen her a lot.  She’s just riding around he says.   I don’t know if this is a memory or a hallucination, but he believes it and gets all tight mouth with me when I disagree with him.

One part of me wants to just take him to her and say - listen he wants to live in his own house, how about you take care of him, and i’ll help you when you need me.   Jim’s warned me several times that I am not going to be doing this much longer, that he needs taken care of and he is the one I made a vow with. 

One day at a time.

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