Is it Fair?

October 2nd, 2008

I had a friend ask me if I thought I was being fair to Daddy by keeping him at my house.   It really raised a lot of questions in my mind.  I know it’s not fair that he isn’t living at HIS home - but nothing I can do about that.   Is it fair that I haven’t allowed him to go to a nursing home?  I don’t know.  I guess I need to pro and con it - think of it non selfishly. 

Pros  - For him:  Activities and people around him all the time.
                               3 square meals a day
                               immediate medical attention if he needs it
Pros - For us:      Freedom to do as we need to do
                              Less stress and worry
                              I’ll be able to help Mom more with her problems.

Cons - For him:   Strange place, strange people.
                               ‘locked up’ when used to freedom to walk and go outside.
                                He’s not sick
Cons: For us - Mom’s income cut by 2/3rds

I need to think about more pros and cons. There are surely more than this.