I want to go home
This week has been heartbreaking. Daddy seems to be quite clear in the mornings. Breakfast, then his walk…but the last 3 mornings when he comes back from his walk, his observation is the same “I want to go home …and i mean to stay.” How do I explain this to him - how do I make it ok. He can’t go home, she can’t/won’t take care of him. She says nursing home.
I think I’m doing the right thing - but he’s unhappy. I don’t know how to make him happy. He said “So I have to suffer.”
He’s right - he should be able to go home. He worked all those years to buy that house. His pension pays for it’s upkeep even now. Instead, he has to sit unhappily at my house, taking his walks and occasional outings with me, and being bored. There isn’t much he could actually do, although he would be willing to do anything i would ask of him. I wish he could ride a mower - he needs that sense of helping out, doing his part I think. Unfortunately, his thought processes don’t allow him to do more than maybe 2 things in sequence.
I talked to my oldest brother about it today, I’m heartbroken for Daddy, and just don’t know how to ‘fix’ it. I don’t think I can fix it - just going to have to try to keep talking to him, giving hugs, making him know *I* want him and find ways to keep him busy occupied. (easier said than done). Big brother just offered that maybe tomorrow would be another day and he wouldn’t remember it then. I thought that too, but this isn’t going away.
I wonder if he thinks if he goes home everything will be like it used to be. He’ll think better, walk better, talk better….
I guess I seriously need to talk to Mom about this. He will be home more in the next couple months, maybe they’ll work things out so that he can stay there. She doesn’t have to ‘give up her life’ - she only has to alter it a little .. after all when we marry we pledge - in sickness and in health. I found ways to make my life work with him here. Just a little less me, and a little more him is all.